This episode took place when we were on vacation. We knew most of the guests staying at the hotel because we all went the same weeks in the summer for years. The back story on this is that one of the women there, is a big flirt and especially flirtatious with my guy. So, I admit there is a bit of jealousy there on my part. We'll call her Jane for the sake of this story.
Although most of us hung out every evening by the pool at our hotel, occasionally some would walk two hotels down where there was a bar on the beach. So, on this one particular evening, that was the case; some went to the bar down on the beach and my guy and I decided to take a walk and we stopped by the bar to say hello to our friends. One of our close friends, I call her Mary, asked my guy for some money as she was running low on cash. This is how the rest of this conversation went:
Him: "I'm a sorry, I have a no money with me."
Mary: "Oh, come on, you have to have money!"
Him: "No, really I don't!" (as he puts his hands in his short pockets to indicate they are empty.)
Mary: (razzes him some more, (kiddingly)
Him: (seriously)..."I really don't! Here, see for yourself!" (as he leans sideways, as he pulls out his short pocket for her to slip her hand into!)
Mary: "Oh, that's the oldest trick in the book!"
Him: What?
Mary: "I know what you want me to find!" (kiddingly)
Him: (real serious)"What? I have a no money, look!"
The conversation ends there because thank goodness Mary KNOWS better than to put her hands in his short pockets!
Now, I know he meant it innocently. He just really wanted her to believe him when he said that he didn't have any money on him. I waited until we walked away from the bar and were on our way back to our hotel when I brought back this discussion. I felt I had to explain to him that in this country you don't ask a woman to put her hands in your pocket because it has another meaning. I went on to say to him that if this conversation was between he and Jane, the flirty girl, she would have certainly put her hands in his pocket and came up with a handful of private parts (to put it mildly). Then I would have gotten really pissed off and who knows WHAT would have happened next! He said I was crazy. He saw NOTHING wrong with what he did and didn't understand the underlying suggestion by inviting a girl to go into a mans pocket. Needless to say, this lead to a HUGE fight. I wanted to get my point accross to him so it would not happen again and he continued to defend his innocence. I polled many,people about this. Both while on vacation and even when we got back home. Everyone agreed with me! He said in Italy no one would ever think anything sexual from this situation. So, I put it to the test. His brother, who was also born and raised in Italy is also now living in this country. One day he stopped over and I approached him on this very subject. This is how this conversation went:
Me: (to his brother) "Do you have any money on you?"
Brother: "I'm a sorry, I don't.( as he puts his hands in his pockets)
Me: "Oh, come on, you have to have money".
Brother: "Really, I don't, here....look!" (and he opens his pocket for me to put my hand into!)
Me: "You would REALLY let me put my hand in your pocket?"
Brother: "Yes, why not? I really don't have money on me. My wallet is in the truck. Look!". (as he motions again for me to put my hands in his pocket...with a very serious face, I might add.)
So there you have it. Unbelievable!
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